Last time we looked at the following tool:
Submission
If you submit to God’s Plan He is in control.
If you resist God’s Plan others are in control.
One of the key things to remember about submission is that it is God’s Plan. From the Bible’s perspective it is not out of order to say, “Be reasonable; do it God’s way.”
Not only in the context of marriage, but it other relationships we must ask – and answer – this question:
What do we do when two people who once said, I do;
now say either I don’t, I can’t or I won’t?
In imparting to me as a young teenager The Facts of Life my father said, “The girl you date is not the girl you marry.” Only after marriage did I ‘get it.’ But I also realized I was not the guy my wife married.
Upon entering any binding relationship a new relationship is born.
Add to this lesson the following fact. Of the following four mindsets, can, can’t, will, won’t, only one cannot be overcome through counseling. I won’t.
Through the counseling process a therapist has to find an area – any area – where two people can agree and still say, “I do,” and show those at odds with one another how they can focus on that area and redevelop a thriving relationship be it a marriage or any other relationship.
Regarding marriage relationships, learning to get along in marriage is not done by pitting yourself against your spouse but by learning and doing the Word of God. This brings us back to 1 Peter 3:1-7.
Next time: The Three Levels of Life
